Burnout, Overwhelm, Self-Care, Self-Love
2020 is a dramatic shift from the daily life you knew just one year ago. Sometimes, it’s hard to believe all the challenges we’ve had to overcome in only a few months…
Experiencing a pandemic. Sheltering-in-place. Wearing masks. Navigating heightened awareness of racial tensions.
In response to the adversities we’ve faced this year, we’re undergoing what clinical psychologist William Richard Miller calls quantum change. Quantum change is “a vivid, surprising, benevolent, and enduring personal transformation.” In response to recent events, this change is evolving our consciousness and revealing new possibilities for ourselves and for society.
Within those possibilities is a more empowered you.
Yes, you’ve been hard at work as a mother, a career woman, and a partner. You push yourself to limits trying to grow your career and provide for your family. Yet, you burn out in the process.
What about you and providing for your well-being?
Quantum change is creating a mindset shift:
- You can still pursue self-development without burning yourself out.
- You can share love and compassion with the people around you and express it to yourself.
- You can still fulfill upon your list of priorities while putting YOU at the top of that list.
Let’s explore how quantum change is empowering you to uplevel and care for yourself and the effect it has on the world.
Why Self-Development is the Path Forward
It might not be the answer you were expecting. You might even think it selfish — with all that’s happening in the world, why focus on YOURSELF?
Yet hear me out.
Self-development is the catalyst for positive change in the world. In his book Miracle Morning, Hal Elrod wrote, “Our outer world will always be a reflection of our inner world. Our level of success is always going to parallel our level of personal development.”
What does he mean?
It means that the impact you have on the world will reflect the efforts you put into growing yourself. After you nurture and manifest your gifts, you can share them with others. Gifts like deep compassion and an abundance mindset can be shared with your loved ones, your community, and even your country.
But what happens when you fail to make YOU a priority?
The Dangers of Neglecting Yourself
You already know.
- You suffer signs of burnout.
- Life feels overwhelming.
- You feel isolated and disempowered.
- Every day is a struggle just to get things done.
- Your potential goes unrealized.
Have you ever heard of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs?
In his Hierarchy of Needs, Maslow discusses what it takes to reach self-actualization — the peak of human experience. The foundations of that pyramid are securing your basic physiological needs (food and water), feeling safe in your environment, and cultivating reliable support systems.
Yet, in these uncertain times, you might feel vulnerable at all levels.
If you’re a woman of color, you might fear for your safety due to recent racially-charged tragedies. If you were laid off due to business shutdowns, you might worry about providing for your family. And the time you spent in quarantine might have led you to experience loneliness and isolation.
Times are challenging, I know. But all is not lost.
Cultivating a sanctuary of self-love and self-acceptance within yourself teaches you to embrace yourself as you are. And if you need any help to feel confidence and love in your own skin, support is available if you ask.
Create Quantum Change By Prioritizing YOU
Recent events have confirmed my worldview — the power to change your environment begins with creating positive change within yourself. Before I could properly support and empower other women, I had to start with supporting and empowering MYSELF.
This is why I became a Certified Accelerated Evolution coach — to inspire women to break through their mental and emotional blocks with greater ease and to more fully own their power, the same way I used these tools to help myself.
Do you feel guilty about taking time for yourself? Do you judge yourself because you know you can somehow summon the resources to work another hour, do another task, or pursue another project?
I certainly did.
This emotional and mental block can be difficult to identify and dissolve, because striving — even if it means burning out in the process — seems like a virtue.
Yes, self-development can mean putting in the work, yet it also means taking time to rest. Because your potential to manifest your gifts and share them with the world also relies on the care and attention you put into your well-being.
The positive change you desire in your outer world springs from the well of abundance and compassion you cultivate within yourself.
So, start there.
Start with caring and loving YOU.
Are you ready to lessen your struggle and choose ease in all areas of your life?
Quantum change is creating a mindset shift that reminds us: self-care isn’t negotiable.
Self-development is the path forward, yet it doesn’t have to mean achieving your goals at the risk of your health. You can manifest the change you desire by prioritizing self-love, self-care, and balance.
When you’re truly ready to make this shift in your life, sign up for a Complimentary 60-minute “Breakthrough Struggle to Claim Ease” Discovery Session with me.
In this 60-minute consultation, you’ll:
- Reveal a clear and compelling vision of what else is possible for your life when you’re no longer struggling and are enjoying your life again
- Get simple and practical tips for how to break free from your symptoms of overwhelm
- Tap into greater ease, energy and inspiration
- Explore how having a partner on your journey will provide a shortcut to all that you desire.
As I mentioned previously, Accelerated Evolution changed my life and it can change yours too. In October, I will let you know of an opportunity where you can experience these tools firsthand. So stay tuned…
And in the meantime, if you’re ready to find out how these tools can help you now, click here to schedule your complimentary “Breakthrough Struggle to Claim Ease” Discovery Session with me.
Overwhelm, Self-Care, Self-Love
Chronic pain. Fatigue. Lack of focus.
These were all things I struggled with after a car crash a few months ago. As if COVID-19 wasn’t taking up enough space on my plate, I was now dealing with insurance companies, getting medical treatment, hiring an attorney, and buying a new car.
(I’d say I felt overwhelmed, but that would be an understatement!)
Eager to feel balance again, I tried meditation, deep breathing, and Emotional Freedom Technique. These were all helpful… but temporary.
I wanted lasting peace and spaciousness.
Thankfully, I’d been studying a modality – Accelerated Evolution (AE) – which targets and dissolves mental and emotional blocks. I had seen and heard amazing things about how well these AE processes work.
Even though I knew how to use the AE tools, I was also aware that receiving support would accelerate my results. So, I decided to have a Certified AE Coach run a process on me… and it was life-changing.
My breakthrough was so simple and yet so profound. I was empowered to see – yet again – that I choose everything in my life. That I’m not at the effect of anything. And this allowed me to shift out of overwhelm – and stay out of overwhelm – more effectively than anything else I’d tried.
The AE approach to healing is so swift and effective that I decided to become certified as well so that I can share these transformational practices with my clients. They build upon all the work I’ve already been doing while deepening the results that are now available to us all.
My Background in Metaphysics and How It Relates to Self-Growth
For over 3 decades, I’ve been on this continuous journey of learning, growing, and evolving. The knowledge I’ve accumulated – through my studies in metaphysics, including Accelerated Evolution – has yielded powerful tools for creating positive and lasting life change… for myself AND for my clients.
Much of my personal and professional philosophy is rooted in metaphysics. (If all goes well, I’ll obtain my Ph.D. in metaphysics by early 2021!)
Metaphysics is a branch of philosophy that explores the non-physical realm, diving into our origins, existence, and understanding of self. Interestingly, many metaphysical elements overlap with what it means to thrive.
A vital intention of both metaphysics and personal development is for you to understand yourself. Because the way forward is revealed by looking inward. Yes, there are many external obstacles you’ll face. Yet, many of your challenges will be internal.
Have you ever felt any of these emotions?
- Paralyzing self-doubt
- Debilitating fear of the future
- Feeling chained to a memory from the past
- Helplessness
- Overwhelmed by life
- Loneliness due to lack of support systems
- Fear of stepping outside your comfort zone.
Perhaps you just don’t know what to do next.
Recognizing that many women suffer from these mental and emotional blocks, I began to provide coaching and spiritual counseling that address these issues. My vision is for all women to fully embrace self-love so they may heal and share their gifts with the world. I regularly ask myself, “How do I elevate my services and empower women to tackle these challenges with greater confidence?”
Then I was introduced to Satyen Raja and the Accelerated Evolution Academy.
What Is Accelerated Evolution (AE)?
You probably already know that receiving regular self-care and ongoing support is essential to your well-being.
So, what’s stopping you from fully accepting the benefits available from these practices?
Most likely, it’s your mental or emotional blocks that act as walls and keep you from experiencing a sense of well-being. It’s why you might experience low self-esteem or lack of motivation, even when you regularly exercise and practice gratitude. Your potential for personal growth can be limited by internal obstacles.
But once you dissolve these walls and overcome your mental and emotional blocks, something magical happens. You can finally experience the bounty of your self-care efforts in terms of self-development:
- Clearer purpose
- Increased confidence
- Peak performance
- Greater freedom
- Emotional abundance.
Gaining mastery over yourself, your emotions, and your mindset grants you access to greater opportunities. You can finally pursue a life that YOU love.
Thanks to Satyen Raja, founder of the Accelerated Evolution Academy, AE is dramatically evolving what I’ve already been choosing and experiencing. His mission is “to share the most direct, swift and effective methods that create instant, core and lasting change in people’s personal and professional lives.”
I’m excited to share that I am now officially a Certified Accelerated Evolution Coach! As such, I can use these techniques to help my clients end struggle and claim ease.
Sounds incredible, right?
So what is the process behind Accelerated Evolution? How do you go from struggle and overwhelm to freedom and ease? Let’s find out.
How Does Accelerated Evolution Work?
Many of our problems are internal — buried beneath our mental and emotional blocks.
AE techniques remove our inner resistance through verbally-guided experiences. With each mental and emotional block dissolved, you’ll discover more of who you really are and open yourself to greater ease, joy, and peace.
AE is about tapping into the essence of who you are.
And the process works remarkably fast. It is possible to address a limiting belief and experience more freedom and new possibilities around it in just a few hours!
How Accelerated Evolution Changed My Life
As I mentioned earlier, one AE process – as facilitated by a Certified Accelerated Evolution Coach – helped me recover from my car crash-induced overwhelm in about 30 minutes. Mental and emotional challenges are often defined by two polarizing thoughts or emotions. In my case, the emotional polarities were ‘overwhelm’ (what I was currently feeling) and ‘spaciousness’ (what I wanted to feel instead).
After letting go of overwhelm, I realized that I also had a belief that there wasn’t enough time to get everything done. I’d even feel guilty when I took time to have fun (even though I KNOW better, I still saw how this block was holding me back). After receiving another AE process, I was able to release this belief and now I have the freedom of choice to have fun without guilt. (In fact, I’m on vacay with my husband this week at a fancy resort so we can enjoy some FUN, together!)
I’ve been experiencing some amazing personal transformations through the AE processes. Instead of feeling overwhelmed, I now consciously choose to have more spaciousness and abundance in my life. Because I am stronger in mind, body, and spirit, I’m also in a more empowered position to help YOU achieve the same results.
My approach to coaching and spiritual counseling is also evolving, as I’ve added AE to my already powerful coaching and counseling toolbox.
My Mission to Help YOU Thrive Is Rooted in My Own Journey of Self-Growth
As I partner with my clients, I speak from the experience gathered through my own self-growth journey. I am better able to help you when I’m aware of what it took to help myself.
And what I’ve learned is that AE techniques work. By removing inner resistance and dissolving mental and emotional blocks, you’ll gain a greater understanding of yourself and more freedom than you’ve ever felt before. You can finally tap into the bounty of self-love, self-acceptance, and self-advocacy.
As you move through life, you can at times feel like a pendulum swinging between tranquility and chaos. When struggling, you try some “quick fixes” to feel better, but the effects are temporary. Soon, you’re feeling anxious and overwhelmed again.
Accelerated Evolution will liberate you from your mental and emotional chains, so you can transition from overwhelm and anxiety to a life of ease and empowerment.
What’s keeping YOU from accelerating your evolution and becoming the woman you want to be?
Are you tired of swinging between struggle and ease?
Is it time to try something that has the potential to provide powerful and lasting relief?
If so, I invite you to a Complimentary 60-minute “Breakthrough Struggle to Claim Ease” Discovery Session.
In this 60-minute consultation, you’ll:
- Reveal a clear and compelling vision of what else is possible for your life when you’re no longer struggling and are enjoying your life again
- Get simple and practical tips for how to break free from your symptoms of overwhelm
- Tap into greater ease, energy and inspiration
- Explore how having a partner on your journey will provide a shortcut to all that you desire.
Accelerated Evolution changed my life and it can change your life too. In October, I will give you an opportunity to have an experience of these tools firsthand. So stay tuned…
And in the meantime, if you’re ready to find out how these tools can help you now, click here to schedule your complimentary “Breakthrough Struggle to Claim Ease” Discovery Session with me.
Overwhelm, Self-Care, Self-Love
Have you ever predicted that something undesirable would happen to you, and it came true?
For example, when you believed you were going to have an awful day and then it happened — your dog got sick on the new rug, you spilled coffee on your blouse on the way to the office, you were late to your important client meeting because you had to return home to change… you were irritable and overwhelmed the entire day.
But… was it premonition? Or… was it a self-fulfilling prophecy?
It might be hard to hear… but the truth is, these kinds of negative self-fulfilling prophecies are setting you up to fail. What if you could use them to set yourself up for success instead?
In this article, we’ll explore the self-fulfilling prophecy — what is it, how it can harm you, and how you can use it to access the joy and ease you desire.
What is a Self-Fulfilling Prophecy?
A self-fulfilling prophecy occurs when you predict an outcome, and you then take actions that effectively create that end result.
A self-fulfilling prophecy can be hard to spot because you often perform those actions subconsciously. You don’t realize you’re going against your well-being in the moment.
For example, if you have low self-esteem, you might feel you’re unworthy of love and joy. Because you believe you’re unworthy, you stop loving and caring for yourself and building support systems.
Unfortunately, the above scenario is unconducive to personal growth and limits the potential for love and joy in your life.
The Harmful Effects of a Negative Self-Fulfilling Prophecy
If your self-fulfilling prophecies tell you that you’re not smart enough or pretty enough or not worthy and you believe it, it can seriously harm your well-being. You may experience:
- Anger
- Helplessness
- Hopelessness
- Shame
- Depression
- Social withdrawal
- Substance abuse
Self-fulfilling prophecies confirm the powerful connection between your belief and actions. Your thoughts influence your actions, and your actions perpetuate your beliefs.
Once these limiting beliefs take hold of your life, the cycle repeats. Your thoughts tell you you’re not good enough, you take actions against your well-being, and your reality then confirms your beliefs.
When you’re stuck in this loop, what can you do about it?
Breaking the Cycle
As with anything, awareness is the first step toward breaking this cycle. By acknowledging that this pattern exists, you can then take steps to change it.
The following tips will help you curb your self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviors. Then you can choose beliefs that empower you instead.
Create a Self-Fulfilling Prophecy That Empowers You
#1 Stop the All or Nothing Mentality
Have you ever experienced thoughts like this?
- I always screw things up.
- I will never find someone who loves me because I can’t even love myself.
- This always happens, no matter what I do.
Your language influences your beliefs. Words like “always” and “never” contribute to self-limiting phrases that make it easy to perpetuate what isn’t true. This binary makes it easier to fall prey to unwanted self-fulfilling prophecies.
But here’s the thing, life isn’t an all or nothing scenario.
Life may not go your way 100% of the time, but you can still influence what you do and how you react. If you fail once, it does not mean you’re destined for failure forever.
You are not a victim of your circumstances.
The next time you experience a setback, accept that it happened. Then, find the lesson and use it to your advantage in the future.
#2 Acknowledge and Embrace Your Strengths
If I asked you to create a list of your strengths, how difficult of a task would it be?
Would you have to think for a moment? How long would your list be?
See, we often create self-fulfilling prophecies because we believe we’re without strengths.
However, that is untrue.
Each woman — yes, that means YOU — has the capacity to grow, receive love, and experience joy. You can manifest your gifts and share them with the people around you.
I invite you to list all your achievements and strengths now. Your strengths could be interpersonal, like amazing listening skills, or professional, like impeccable time management. List all of them.
If you’re struggling with your list, ask a trustworthy friend what they experience as your strengths. Seeing yourself through the eyes of a cherished companion can help you recognize the value and worth hiding behind your self-critical dialogue.
#3 Visualize Success
We often associate self-fulfilling prophecies with adverse outcomes. But what if you could, instead, predict a favorable scenario? Instead of imagining failure, you see yourself overcoming your challenges.
When you visualize success, you prime your mind and body to manifest that outcome. “The brain is getting trained for actual performance during visualization,” said AJ Adams, MAPP with Psychology Today, “It’s been found that mental practices can enhance motivation, increase confidence and self-efficacy, improve motor performance, prime your brain for success, and increase states of flow.”
So, how do you do it?
Focus on sensory and emotional details:
- Visualize the setting. (Where are you? Are you alone or with people? Is it the morning or afternoon?) Be specific.
- Imagine each individual action necessary to manifest your success.
- Picture yourself successfully performing those actions.
- Experience how you’d feel completing each action.
- Embrace the glow and pride you’d feel when you’ve accomplished your goal.
When you imagine yourself taking the actions and experiencing the rewards of success, you can manifest that vision as your reality.
#4 Overcome Your Mental and Emotional Blocks
Despite your best efforts, it can sometimes feel like you’re getting nowhere. Unfortunately, you may have some type of mental or emotional block hampering your growth.
If so, you will need to dissolve those mental and emotional blocks to claim the life you desire. Until you do, you’re more likely to experience undesirable self-fulfilling prophecies.
For additional support with overcoming those blocks and manifesting greater ease and joy in your life, claim your Complimentary “Overcoming Overwhelm” Discovery session with me.
In this 60-minute consultation, you’ll:
- Reveal a clear and compelling vision of what else is possible for your life when you no longer have so much on your plate and are enjoying your life again
- Get simple and practical tips for how to break free from your symptoms of overwhelm
- Tap into greater energy and inspiration
- Explore how having a partner on your journey will provide a shortcut to all that you desire.
Click here now to schedule a Complimentary “Overcoming Overwhelm” Discovery session.
Burnout, Overwhelm, Self-Care, Self-Love
Are you wondering if there’s more to life than feeling overwhelmed?
Do you desire more space because your schedule is packed?
Is stress affecting your health and relationships?
If you answered yes to any of these, you’re not alone. Sometimes, it feels like you’re stuck in a cycle of overworking yourself, coping with the signs of burnout, and praying for relief. When you’re trapped in the cycle for long enough, your motivation wanes, your relationships become strained, and your performance suffers.
You want to create positive change, but chances are, you won’t break the cycle overnight.
Still, you can create mini changes one day at a time.
One small habit at a time.
Last month, we talked about letting go of the things that weigh you down:
This week is different. Instead of sharing what to let go, I’m sharing mini personal habits that you can embrace. When you practice these habits for long enough, you do more than exit the burnout cycle — you claim a life of greater ease.
The Power of Habits
When you form personal mini habits, you’re not just adding something else to your to-do list. You’re becoming a more resilient version of who you are.
For example, waking up 30 minutes earlier to do something that benefits you on a physical, mental, or spiritual level is more than just getting out of bed early. When you create this habit, you’re becoming someone who cares deeply about herself.
James Clear, the author of Atomic Habits, shares the relationship between habits and identity. “Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become,” Clear wrote. “No single instance will transform your beliefs, but as the votes build up, so does the evidence of your new identity.”
In other words, one day will hardly make a difference. But weeks of faithfully practicing your habits can manifest the incredible and beautiful changes you desire. While each woman’s goals may vary, the following six habits will lead you to greater joy and ease.
6 Personal Habits to Practice Daily for More Joy and Ease In Your Life
#1 Have A Morning Practice
Before calls, texts, emails, and children beg for your attention, the morning offers a moment for silence and reflection. While the world sleeps, use this time to tune into your body. Before fulfilling what other people ask of you, first listen to what your mind and body ask of you. Their request might be physical, like more water and sleep. Or it might be emotional, like a deep and heartfelt conversation with a close friend.
A morning practice looks different for everyone, yet it need not be complicated. The following activities can help you tap into your inner dialogue:
- Meditation
- Yoga
- Journaling
- Prayer
- Reading
- Walking outside
Each of the above activities will strengthen your mind and body over time. Each morning you choose to fulfill upon your practice, you’ll feel a little more grounded and balanced. This resilience enables you to maintain a positive mindset throughout the day, which provides the opportunity to move closer to achieving your goals with joy and ease.
#2 Set An Alarm For Bedtime
Alarms aren’t just for waking up. You can also set an alarm for when it’s time to get ready for bed.
When following a morning practice, don’t make the mistake of sacrificing quality sleep. When your sleep suffers, you feel tired, irritable, and unmotivated. Getting adequate sleep — 7 to 8 hours — will keep you energized and motivated as you pursue your goals.
Making your sleep a priority is one way to love and honor your body. Just as your morning alarm tells you when to get up, your evening alarm reminds you that you can rejuvenate your body by preparing for a restful night’s sleep.
#3 Name 5 Things You’re Grateful For
Manifesting more joy in your life begins with acknowledging the blessings that already exist.
The bare minimum you need to survive is food, water, and shelter. Anything beyond this is a gift. Whether it’s nutrition, shelter, a healthy family or good friends, these things are all worth acknowledgment and appreciation.
Each day, pause for a few seconds.
Think of 5 things that you’re grateful for at this very moment. Then express your appreciation by saying aloud, “I am grateful for ______.”
I’ll share 5 things I’m grateful for right now: “I am grateful for my loving family, my cuddly cat, my comfortable home, my caring friends, and my fabulous mentors and coaches.”
Even during times of overwhelm, there is still much to appreciate. This daily gratitude practice will remind you to be joyful in the present while being open to receive the abundance yet to come.
#4 Reach Out And Connect
Powerful support systems contribute to a life full of love, warmth, and joy.
But we sometimes take the people we cherish for granted.
The truth is that our loved one won’t always be there. Our time on this physical plane is finite.
These recent months of self-isolation may have distanced you from those special people. It’s time to rebuild those bridges.
Take advantage of every moment you can to reach out and connect.
Time may feel insufficient, but love and joy can be infinite. Manifest both of these in your life through the relationships you keep. A simple text message or a phone call is all you need to keep those support systems strong.
#5 Eat A Home-cooked Meal
Your body is something else you might be taking for granted.
The time spent sheltered at home may have had you ordering take-out or delivery more often than is healthy. To show your body more appreciation, start feeding it delicious and nutritious foods.
Head to the grocery store and pull out your kitchen apron. Or, if you’re like me and want someone else to do the legwork, sign up for one of the meal delivery services that provide all the ingredients. Then, all you have to do is put the meal together. Eating a healthy home-cooked meal (don’t skip the vegetables!) will build the daily habit of respecting your body.
Your body will reward you with more energy, a sharper mind, and brighter skin over time. And as you enjoy this increased vitality and desire, you will manifest your vision with greater ease.
#6 Step Outside
While many non-essential businesses are reopening, many gyms remain closed.
Fortunately, you don’t need a gym to get your steps in.
You can step outside, feel the warm sunshine, and breathe in the fresh air — all without the price of a monthly gym membership.
According to Lifehacker, stepping outside can also promote mindfulness and reduce stress. “When things get overwhelming, as they so often do nowadays,” they wrote, “putting on a pair of comfortable shoes and going for a short walk—while maintaining proper physical distancing of course—can help bring a little calm to a chaotic world.”
This can be especially true if you’re working from home. Leaving your home to embrace the outdoors can bring much-needed separation from stress triggered by your work-from-home environment.
Don’t Let Overwhelm Block You From Your Best Life
2020 hardly feels like living your best life. Coping with COVID-19 and social injustice introduced new challenges and stressors that may reinforce the burnout cycle.
Yet you don’t have to postpone inner peace to 2021 and beyond. These daily habits teach you that even small actions, when done daily, can introduce powerful and long-lasting change — change that will create more joy and ease in your life.
Your journey doesn’t have to be a solitary one either. If you need additional support, claim a Complimentary “Overcoming Overwhelm” Discovery session with me.
In this 60-minute consultation, you’ll:
- Reveal a clear and compelling vision of what else is possible for your life when you no longer have so much on your plate and are enjoying your life again
- Get simple and practical tips for how to break free from your symptoms of overwhelm
- Tap into greater energy and inspiration
- Explore how having a partner on your journey will provide a shortcut to all that you desire.
Click here now to schedule a Complimentary “Overcoming Overwhelm” Discovery session.
Overwhelm, Self-Care, Self-Love
“Don’t wait for the right opportunity. Create it.” ~ George Bernard Shaw
Ever feel like your best life is just a fantasy?
Waking up every morning feeling empowered… Moving through the day with intense focus… Knocking out tasks left and right, carrying you closer to your goals… Not even coronavirus can bring you down!
It’s a pretty thought.
But how can you reach among the stars where your best life is hiding, when you’re drowning in a sea of overwhelm? On top of that, the added stress from coronavirus makes you feel like you’re sinking deeper and deeper.
I’m here to tell you that there’s more to life than struggling to stay afloat. The life you desire doesn’t have to stay a dream. You can make that vision your reality.
You can take action and learn how to live your best life NOW.
Here’s how…
What Does It Mean to Live Your Best Life?
When you’re living your best life, you bring these three principles into fruition:
- Actualize Your Potential. You manifest the potential that’s within you.
- Exercise Urgency. You acknowledge your mortality and even in these uncertain times, you choose to start living your best life TODAY.
- Commit to Daily Action. You take an action step every day, because that’s how you create your best life.
When you apply these principles in your life, you’ll start noticing some beautiful changes:
- You feel inspired and experience more joy.
- Your career becomes a source of purpose in your life.
- Your relationships deepen and you feel supported.
- Your day-to-day journey continuously moves you closer to fulfilling your purpose and realizing your potential.
Sounds amazing, right?
Are you ready to finally say goodbye to overwhelm and start feeling empowered again? Here’s how you can get started!
How to Live Your Best Life Now: 5 Practices to Free Yourself from Overwhelm and Reach Your Potential
#1 Find Your Purpose
Your purpose is your life’s mission — it defines your goals and guides you to live your best life.
But there are many women who don’t know their purpose yet. In one survey asking people what they think the purpose of life is, over half of the participants were unsure or didn’t know.
That’s why the first step to living your best life is finding your purpose.
Is your purpose in the professional space? If so, your best life may be advancing in your career or building a business you love.
Or maybe your purpose resides more with family. Your best life may look like settling down and having many children.
Get clear about your purpose.
After all, if you don’t know where you’re going, how do you know you’re headed in the right direction?
What is your life’s purpose? Share it in the comments below!
#2 Plan and Take Action
There generally comes a time when you get tired of thinking about your best life and choose to live it instead. And that starts with planning and taking action.
The secret to living your best life is setting actionable steps that lead you to the person you want to become.
And sometimes living your best life means having a BIG goal. It can help to create a game plan that breaks that goal into smaller actionable steps.
For example, I’m currently working on my dissertation. There are many steps between getting started and presenting it before a committee. I have to break down the process into smaller steps, like brainstorming, researching, outlining, writing, and editing.
Let’s say your best life means living lighter and more organized. Decluttering your home is a HUGE project to tackle. Your game plan might be to declutter and organize by room:
- Week 1: kitchen
- Week 2: living room
- Week 3: bedrooms
- Week 4: bathrooms
- Week 5: garage
Achieving your best life can be hard work but taking smaller steps consistently will help you get there without losing your sanity!
#3 Make YOU a Priority
As women, we often give away our time and energy to others before giving it to ourselves. And if you neglect your well-being, you’ll quickly feel signs of burnout.
If you want to live a life where you feel empowered, energized, and inspired, remember to put taking care of YOU at the top of that list.
And that includes respecting your body.
When you don’t get enough sleep, drink enough water, or eat the right nutrients, you take your body for granted. This is a disservice to yourself and your goals because, without your body, there is no best life.
Right now, although gyms and restaurants have reopened, you may not feel it’s safe to frequent these places yet.
Instead, you can take this opportunity to cook healthier meals at home. Go for more walks (with your dog, if you have one) around the neighborhood. Do a workout program in your living room!
Treat your body well and it will do amazing things for you.
#4 Embrace Gratitude
When was the last time you noticed the abundance in your life?
If you think about it, all you need to live is food, water, and shelter.
Anything beyond that is a blessing granted by your hard work and by the grace of your Higher Power.
Each day you’re safe from coronavirus is another opportunity to express gratitude for all you have, especially your health.
Yes, your best life might mean striving for more but don’t forget the blessings that already touch your life.
#5 Commit to Lifelong Learning
Just because you graduate high school or college shouldn’t suggest that your education is over.
If you feel like you’re in a rut, the culprit might be lack of inspiration and your creative well may be collecting cobwebs.
Life is meant to be a journey where you’re moving forward, learning, and growing. I know that staying safe at home might tempt you to indulge in more screen time, but consider it an opportunity to learn something new.
Find a new hobby to help you tap into your creative flow. Learn a new skill you can monetize. Start reading and creating more!
Your Best Life Awaits You
Creating your best life can feel scary.
Maybe you don’t think you’re good enough… smart enough… pretty enough.
I’m here to tell you, “You are enough.”
It’s okay to love yourself. You can put yourself first, tend to your own needs, and then give back to the world without feeling overwhelmed with life.
You and I live in a FRIENDLY universe that is ready to grant you the change you want…
Yet first, you must be ready to receive it.
If you welcome it with open arms, you can reclaim your PASSION and start creating a life you TRULY desire.
You have the power to create positive change in your life.
And sometimes, you need a little help getting there. Because finding the time and energy to start making these incredible changes can feel nearly impossible when you’re overwhelmed with everything else going on in your life.
Don’t give up on yourself.
If you need help getting past overwhelm and taking action towards your best life, sign up for a Complimentary “Overcoming Overwhelm” Discovery session with me.
In this 60-minute consultation you’ll:
- Reveal a clear and compelling vision of what else is possible for your life when you no longer have so much on your plate and are enjoying your life again
- Get simple and practical tips for how to break free from your symptoms of overwhelm
- Tap into greater energy and inspiration
- Explore how having a partner on your journey will provide a shortcut to all that you desire.
Click here now to sign up for a complimentary “Overcoming Overwhelm” Discovery session.
Your best life awaits!
Overwhelm, Self-Care, Self-Love
I wonder what they think about me.
I hope I didn’t embarrass myself.
Maybe I should do this just to make them happy… Even though I really don’t want to.
Do you ever find yourself thinking about how other people perceive you? You might even go out of your way just to make a good impression.
If you put other people’s thoughts and needs before your own, you might be a people-pleaser. While it’s great to want to build positive relationships, trying to please other people can compromise your own well-being.
In this article, I provide tips on how to stop being a people-pleaser so you are able to put more of your time and energy towards caring for yourself.
What Is a People-Pleaser?
A people-pleaser is someone who constantly tries to get the approval of other people. They will go out of their way to meet someone else’s needs — often at the expense of their own time, energy, and well-being.
The Pitfalls of Being a People-Pleaser
Putting everyone else’s opinions and needs before your own leaves you vulnerable to:
- Loss of Authenticity: You go along with others, even if you don’t agree. Failure to stand for what you believe over time can lead to uncertainty about what you really want or how to be true to yourself.
- Not Valuing Yourself: Each time you say yes to someone else’s needs, you lose an opportunity to say yes to your own. Where you choose to allocate your valuable time and energy indicates what (and who) you truly value.
- Physical Burnout: Your time and energy are finite resources. When you don’t make yourself a priority and practice regular self-care, you may suffer from signs of burnout — exhaustion, stress, and overwhelm.
- Decreased Self-Esteem: Constantly putting other people’s needs before your own can cause low self-esteem. You may begin to believe that your needs and desires are secondary or really don’t matter at all.
- Exploitation: People will begin to exploit your good nature and insecurities. This creates a one-sided relationship where they constantly take, and you continuously give.
Why Do We Become People-Pleasers?
If the dangers of being a people-pleaser are problematic, why might you (and many other women) continue doing it? Often, it’s because you’re uncomfortable with conflict and confrontation.
You don’t want to appear disagreeable to others. “You fear that you’ll lose that person if you say no. You don’t want to be ‘rejected’ or ‘abandoned,’” says Psych Central. So, you follow the crowd.
Insecurity is another common reason. Low self-esteem may lead you to use other people’s opinions of you to define your worth. Unfortunately, this dependency can cause you to go above and beyond for other people, leaving you burned out and overwhelmed in the process.
Are you ready to stop being a people-pleaser and reclaim your time and energy for yourself? Here are five tips for making yourself a priority again.
Stop Being a People-Pleaser: 5 Tips to Help You Let Go of Other People’s Opinions
#1 Understand Your Priorities
When you’re a people-pleaser and agree to do a favor, especially something you disagree with, you’re expending time and energy — valuable resources that you could have used for yourself.
Instead of using other people’s opinions to determine your actions, let your values and priorities guide you.
For example, let’s say your current priority is health and nutrition. But your partner wants to eat out every other evening. Instead of constantly relenting, explain to your partner that you’re striving to be healthier. Propose that you cook healthy homemade meals instead.
Clear priorities help you make decisions that better align with your well-being.
#2 Understand That You Are at Choice
Over time, saying yes too often can form a habit. You’re so used to accommodating other people that agreeing to something — even if you don’t want to — is an automatic behavior.
You can put an end to this pattern by accepting that you are actually at choice. You don’t have to default to yes. You can say no to a request if it does not align with your values and priorities at the moment.
If you are willing to do this, I have a challenge for you.
The next time somebody asks you to go out of your way for something, say no. You don’t have to explain yourself. Just thank them for considering you and respectfully decline.
#3 Set Boundaries
Setting healthy boundaries is one of the most effective ways for you to stop being a people-pleaser. Remember: each time you give away your time and energy, you have less for yourself.
To help you set better boundaries, pull out your calendar and start blocking out time for self-care and personal growth. For example, you could commit Saturday evenings to eating your favorite meal and taking a warm bubble bath. And you could dedicate 30 minutes each morning to journaling and meditation.
Blocking out “me” time in your schedule helps prevent your people-pleasing tendencies from dominating all your time and energy.
#4 Replace “I can’t” With “I don’t”
When you’re a chronic people-pleaser, saying “no” or “I can’t” can feel like the most daunting task. It may take time, but learning assertive communication will help you create boundaries and stand up for yourself.
Instead of coming up with excuses to avoid seeming rude, try being direct.
For example, even though you work from home all day, you’re still exhausted when you clock out. But you always have a friend who wants to meet for drinks and dinner. Instead of making excuses, give yourself permission to simply say, “I don’t go out on weekday evenings.”
Or let’s say your friend is always asking for favors and requests. If you’re busy or you’re feeling unwell, simply say “I don’t have availability to do that at this moment.” Over time, people will learn to understand and respect your boundaries.
This might feel uncomfortable at first, but with enough practice, assertive communication will become second-nature.
#5 Restore Order to Your World
Too often, women seek validation in external sources — their friends and family, status, the number of likes from social media.
And sometimes, this behavior stems from your life feeling chaotic and unorganized.
You’re overwhelmed by all external forces: work, caring for your family, staying safe during a pandemic. You might also be coping with internal struggles: poor self-esteem, anxiety, and powerlessness.
To help you feel beautiful and empowered again, I invite you to claim a Complimentary “Overcoming Overwhelm” Discovery session with me.
In this 60-minute consultation, you’ll:
- Reveal a clear and compelling vision of what else is possible for your life when you no longer have so much on your plate and are enjoying your life again
- Get simple and practical tips for how to break free from your symptoms of overwhelm
- Tap into greater energy and inspiration
- Explore how having a partner on your journey will provide a shortcut to all that you desire.
Click here now to schedule a Complimentary “Overcoming Overwhelm” Discovery session.
