Go With the Flow: Your Guide To Embracing Change

How open are you to change? 

Whether we like it or not, change is the only constant in life. It may be easier to find comfort and stability in what is familiar, and yet change serves as a catalyst for growth and opportunity. So, attempting to control outcomes may impede you from experiencing new perspectives and seizing valuable opportunities that lie beyond your comfort zone. 

Resistance to change most often arises when faced with adversity. Disruptions to your routine can force you to re-examine your patterns of behavior and present amazing opportunities for growth and self-discovery.

Whether change is thrust upon you or you actively seek it out, embracing a mindset of acceptance is key. Flexibility and openness allow you to navigate life’s ebb and flow with grace and adaptability. By accepting change as an integral part of life, you empower yourself to harness its transformative potential.

How change impacts your life is ultimately shaped by your perception. Knowing the benefits that change can bring, understanding your response to change, and embracing the flow of change can lead to greater fulfillment and success.


Benefits Of Change

Opportunity for Growth and Learning

Change serves as an impetus for personal growth and development. It pushes you out of your comfort zone, encouraging you to explore new possibilities and expand your horizons. When you can view obstacles as opportunities to flourish rather than as insurmountable barriers, each challenge empowers you to evolve and thrive in the face of adversity.

Enhanced Resilience and Adaptability

Through the process of navigating change, you acquire valuable skills, insights, and experiences that shape you into a more resilient and adaptable individual. Embracing change strengthens your resilience muscle, enabling you to bounce back from setbacks with greater ease and grace. By embracing the inevitability of change, you become more flexible and adaptable in your approach to life’s challenges. This resilience empowers you to navigate the uncertainties of life with confidence and optimism, knowing that you have the inner resources to overcome any obstacle.

Fresh Perspectives and Creativity

Change has a way of shaking up your perspective and opening your mind to new possibilities. It encourages you to question old assumptions and beliefs, fostering a sense of curiosity and exploration. By seeking out novel solutions and approaches to unfamiliar situations, you invite creativity and innovation into your life. By embracing change as an opportunity for creative expression, you tap into your innate ability to adapt and thrive in ever-changing environments.

Catalyst for Personal Transformation

At its core, change is a catalyst for personal transformation. It challenges you to confront your fears, step out of your comfort zone, and embrace the unknown. Through the process of transformation, you shed old layers of conditioning and emerge as a more authentic and empowered version of yourself. Change invites you to reevaluate your priorities, goals, and values, guiding you towards a life that is aligned with your deepest desires and aspirations.


Responding To Change

Feelings of Stress

Change often prompts anxiety as it disrupts familiar patterns, challenging your sense of stability. It’s natural to feel unsettled when faced with uncertainty and the unknown. However, recognizing these triggers is the first step towards managing your response to change effectively. Acknowledge how you feel when slight change occurs, such as annoyance or upset from an appointment being moved. This will help you to identify how you feel about change as a whole. 

Embrace Impermanence and Letting Go

Change reminds us of the impermanent nature of all things and the importance of letting go. Embrace the ebb and flow of life’s cycles, knowing that endings are simply beginnings in disguise. Practice letting go of attachments to outcomes, identities, and possessions that no longer serve your highest good. As you release the past and embrace the present moment, you create space for new opportunities and experiences to flow into your life.

Release Resistance and Surrender Control

Resistance to change often stems from a fear of the unknown and a desire to maintain control. Yet, true freedom lies in surrendering control and trusting in the inherent wisdom of life’s unfolding journey. Let go of the need to micromanage your life and instead surrender to the natural flow of events. Trust that change is leading you towards growth and evolution, even if the path may seem uncertain at times.

Explore Resistance to Change

Once you acknowledge how you feel about change, explore the underlying reasons behind your apprehension to change. Whether it’s fear of the unfamiliar, attachment to your comfort zone, or your unwillingness to let go, understanding these triggers will empower you to navigate change more consciously. Once you address your concerns, you can embrace change with greater ease and flow.


Embracing The Flow Of Change

Balance Proactive Planning with Acceptance

Finding a balance between proactive planning and acceptance is key to being in  flow. Actively preparing for the future is an invaluable tool for the high-achiever such as yourself, however unfulfilled expectations can result in resistance to change and inhibit your ability to find joy in the moment. Take steps to shape your trajectory towards desired outcomes, while keeping in mind that embracing the present moment allows you to acknowledge circumstances as they are and cultivates adaptability. 

Cultivate a Mindset of Adaptability

Embracing the flow of change begins with cultivating a mindset of adaptability. Rather than viewing change as a threat, see it as an opportunity for growth and learning. Adopt a flexible attitude that allows you to adjust and pivot in response to shifting circumstances. By embracing change as a natural and inevitable part of life, you can navigate transitions with greater ease and resilience.

Practice Mindfulness and Presence

Mindfulness is a powerful tool for embracing the flow of change. By staying grounded in the present moment, you can navigate uncertainty with greater clarity and composure. Practice mindfulness techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or body scans to anchor yourself in the here and now. As you cultivate a sense of presence, you’ll find it easier to flow with the currents of change rather than resisting them.

The Importance of Flexibility and Resilience

Maintaining flexibility and resilience enables you to navigate the twists and turns of life’s journey. Being open to change and resilient in the face of challenges empowers you to flow with the currents of change rather than resisting them. It allows for greater agility in responding to unexpected events and facilitates continuous growth and development. 

Change is a natural and inevitable part of life’s journey. It’s important to be aware that embracing the flow of change is not about passively drifting through life, but rather about actively engaging with the ever-changing currents of existence. 

When you surrender to the transformative benefits of change, understand your feelings around change, and embrace the flow of change, you’ll discover a newfound sense of freedom, possibility, and joy in every moment of life’s unfolding journey.

Ready to navigate the currents of change with finesse? Join me for a private one-on-one conversation about what that might look like. As a Certified Accelerated Evolution Master Coach, my expertise lies in guiding clients to confidently ride the waves of life while maintaining a state of flow.

Click here now and use the comment box to request a complimentary Discovery Session. Experience the next level of your transformational journey with ease.

Activating Flow State: What Is It, Really?

When you are synced up with life, life just gives to you; it opens doors, it creates experiences, it allows you to meet people, things show up you never thought were going to show up, and you are doing what is the purpose of your soul. ~ Oprah Winfrey

You’ve probably heard the term “flow state” before, but what does it really mean? Flow is an optimal state of consciousness that holds the key to unlocking peak performance, pure potential, and a sense of fulfillment and freedom. It’s a divinely joyful experience of being so deeply immersed and fully present in an activity that it feels effortless. Flow state is like being “in the zone” or “in the groove” of life. 

If you’ve ever experienced a day when events unfold seamlessly and you move from one activity to the next feeling energized and completely fulfilled, you’ve experienced a state of flow. It’s those moments when you’re so absorbed that hours feel like minutes and everything just ‘clicks.’ 

Positive psychologist Mihály Csíkszentmihályi describes it like this: “The ego falls away. Time flies. Every action, movement, and thought follows inevitably from the previous one, like playing jazz. Your whole being is involved, and you’re using your skills to the utmost”. 

However, stress and distractions can often disconnect you from a state of flow and leave you with a sense of urgency to complete the next task at hand. Moving from one task to the next can leave you feeling tired and unmotivated. If you often experience this, it’s a sign you need more flow in your life.

Activating Flow State

You cannot multitask into flow. You must give your full attention to a single activity. And, flow only occurs when the difficulty of the activity is in balance with your skill level. For instance, when you’re immersed in leading a challenging project at work, collaborating on a new venture, or strategizing how to evolve your hobby. The flow state can also be found in everyday tasks like engaging in thoughtful discussions, organizing community events, or managing your home life.

You are most likely to experience a flow state when you are doing something you are passionate about. However, even if you are not passionate about a daily task, you can still experience a flow-filled day. 

Practicing these tips can help you activate flow state more often, regardless of what’s on your agenda: 

Focus on the Process, Not the Outcome

To find yourself in flow state, concentrate on the process instead of the outcome. Immerse yourself in the present moment and engage fully with the task at hand. This focus helps quiet the mind and reduce distractions that may prevent you from achieving deep work. 

Monitor Your Physical Comfort With Mindfulness

Being physically comfortable and mindful of your body’s needs is crucial. Be aware of your physical well-being and set up a comfortable space for each activity. Support your focus and engagement by ensuring you’re well-rested, have healthy snacks, stay hydrated, and take regular breaks.

Find Balance With Breaks 

Being in flow state doesn’t mean pushing yourself to exhaustion. Taking short, mindful breaks will actually enhance your ability to maintain flow. Breaks allow your mind to rest, process information, and return to the task with renewed focus and energy. Taking a short walk to stretch your legs or the time to enjoy a meal are both healthy ways to give your mind a rest before embracing your task with renewed energy. 

Celebrate Progress

Acknowledging and celebrating the progress of any increment can create positive reinforcement and motivation. It’s a way of recognizing your achievements and maintaining momentum, both of which are essential for staying in a flow state. 

When you transform how you approach your daily tasks, you turn them into opportunities for satisfaction and growth. By incorporating these tips into your daily life, you can create an environment that encourages and sustains the flow state, allowing you to ride the current of life with grace and purpose. 

In moments of flow, we tend to be our most productive, creative, and resourceful. With a better understanding of how to intentionally cultivate a flow state, you can transform daily mundane tasks from tedious to fulfilling.

As a Certified Accelerated Evolution Master Coach, I partner with my clients to help them experience a more consistent state of flow. I invite you to explore the possibilities available for you when you can embody the flow state regularly. Reach out for a personal complimentary Discovery Session and take your first step towards experiencing your life in flow.

10 Attributes Activated Through Self-Actualization

A successful, high-achieving woman—like you—might find it challenging to make time for spiritual growth. Unlike tangible results seen in the areas of wealth or career, spiritual progress tends to be neither linear, nor easily measured. All things considered, this may affect your level of devotion to your personal evolution. 

However, having an understanding of the exceptional attributes activated during the self-actualization journey can inspire a heightened dedication to your personal development. This elevated desire for growth can enrich your life with greater meaning and fulfillment. 

Self-actualization is not about putting greater effort into climbing the ladder to success. It is about fostering a deeper understanding of yourself and your place in the world. Choosing the path of self-actualization can activate powerful attributes within you. By recognizing and embracing these qualities, you are prepared to experience an even more successful and purposeful life.

When it comes to your personal self-actualization journey, at some point along the way you may question if you’re making progress. You may even ask yourself, “what does it look like to be self-actualized?”

So, let’s explore attributes that are associated with self-actualized individuals. Your understanding and cultivation of these qualities can lead to a life rich with personal satisfaction.


The path of self-actualization leads to a more clear understanding of the world around you, including its possibilities. This attribute allows you to navigate life with greater harmony, accepting inconvenient realities, even while remaining optimistic about overcoming challenges. 

In this context, realism doesn’t mean pessimism; rather, it’s about seeing things as they are, without resistance or the distortion of personal biases. It is the willingness to be present with uncomfortable truths and managing your emotions in the face of what is, especially when reality contradicts your desires. This involves questioning assumptions, seeking out diverse perspectives, and being open to new information and experiences. 


Acceptance involves embracing what is, including yourself, others, and situations you may encounter. This doesn’t imply passive resignation, but rather an acknowledgment of reality as the first step towards positive change.

Cultivating acceptance starts with self-awareness. It requires recognizing and accepting your strengths, weaknesses, successes, and failures. This level of self-acceptance is crucial for personal growth and resilience. Similarly, accepting others involves acknowledging their unique qualities and perspectives, which fosters deeper, more compassionate relationships.

Compassionate Relationships

The path of self-actualization teaches you how to be more empathetic and supportive. Your relationships will be based on mutual respect and understanding. You will value deep, meaningful connections with others, even tending towards a community of like-minded people who foster a greater sense of belonging.

Active listening, empathy, and openness are key to the cultivation of compassionate relationships. It’s about being present for others, offering support and understanding, and valuing the perspectives and experiences of those around you.


In the context of self-actualization, spontaneity is not about impulsive or reckless behavior; rather, it’s about being open to new experiences and expressing yourself freely and authentically. This attribute involves living in the moment and responding to life’s opportunities with flexibility and creativity.

Spontaneity flows from trusting your instincts and embracing uncertainty. It’s about letting go of the need for control and allowing yourself to experience life in its fullness, even when it means stepping out of your comfort zone.


The attribute of autonomy allows you to live authentically and make decisions that align with your true self. Independence in thought and action allows you to be guided by your values and judgments, rather than external pressures or expectations. 

Self-reflection equips you with a deeper understanding of your values and beliefs, so you can confidently stand by your decisions and accept responsibility for your actions. Respecting the autonomy of others means recognizing that each person has their own path to follow.

Cognitive Skills

Self-actualization can lead to exceptional cognitive skills. This means approaching challenges with a clear, analytical mind and seeking practical and innovative solutions. This attribute is not merely about intelligence; it’s about applying your knowledge and creativity to overcome obstacles and improve situations.

Cognitive skills include enhanced critical thinking, creativity, and a willingness to experiment, take risks, and learn from failures. It also involves seeking diverse perspectives and collaborating with others to find the best solutions.

Humility and Gratitude

Humility and gratitude are indispensable attributes of an actualized individual. In this context, humility is not about self-deprecation; it’s about recognizing your place in the larger scheme of things, acknowledging your limitations, and being grateful for your experiences—both positive and negative.

Self-reflection and gratitude practices can help you to acknowledge your achievements while recognizing the role of others in your success. Express gratitude regularly—internally and to others—for your blessings and lessons learned.

Profound Appreciation

You’ll discover a profound appreciation for the world around you. You’ll find joy and wonder in the everyday, maintaining a sense of awe and gratitude for life. This ease of appreciation will enhance your overall well-being and satisfaction.

The practices of mindfulness and gratitude heighten your ability to notice and appreciate the beauty in small things, like nature, art, or everyday interactions. This expanded perspective can transform your experience of the world and foster a deep sense of contentment and joy.

Elevation and Insight

While on your self-actualization journey, you’ll experience elevation and insight, gaining a deeper understanding of yourself, others, and the world. These moments can be transformative, leading to significant personal growth and a renewed sense of purpose.

Engaging in activities that challenge and inspire you can encourage these moments. Reading, travel, meditation, or simply spending time in nature allows you to be open to new experiences and perspectives, which can often trigger profound insights.

Purposeful Living

You’ll have a clear sense of what you want to achieve in life, with your values and goals providing meaning and direction.

Living purposefully means taking the time to identify what is truly important to you. Setting goals that align with your values helps you work towards them with dedication and commitment. Remember, purposeful living is not merely about achieving goals; it’s about the journey and the growth that occurs along the way.

The journey of self-actualization is a transformative experience, leading to a deeper understanding of yourself and a more fulfilled life. As a Certified Accelerated Evolution Master Coach, I can guide you through this process, helping you to activate these essential attributes. Join me for a one-on-one conversation about what that might look like. Click here now and use the comment box to request a complimentary Discovery Session. Take the first step towards activating your untapped potential and living your best life.

12 Accelerated Evolution Secrets For A Powerful New Year

Each New Year symbolizes a fresh start, offering an opportunity to reset your goals and perspectives. New beginnings, especially when in alignment with a renewed desire for personal growth, are an ideal time for transformation. 

Based on my 35 years of education and experience with transformational modalities, I have found “Accelerated Evolution” (AE) to be the simplest and most effective method for releasing blocked energy and bringing about lasting change. For this reason, I trained extensively to become a Certified Accelerated Evolution Master Coach and trainer. My mentor Satyen Raja is the founder of the Accelerated Evolution Academy and an acclaimed luminary in the realm of personal development. 

So, what exactly is Accelerated Evolution? 

Accelerated Evolution is a collection of new, cutting edge techniques that work quickly to relieve the mental and emotional stress of long-standing issues caused by ingrained conditioning, societal imprints, trauma, and intense experiences. AE processes have been developed using the most highly effective methods of modern therapy, cognitive research, and human potential, in conjunction with enduring ancient wisdom principles from martial arts, hypnosis, neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), and the Spiritual Technology work of Zivorad Slavinski. 

AE is for those who are seriously ready to leave past patterns behind. Through techniques that include introspective questioning, energy shifting processes, and deep connection, you’re guided to a highly expanded level of awareness where problems dissolve. This allows you to open to new insights, possibilities, and actions with greater ease and flow. It may even seem magical. 

This blog delves into secrets behind Accelerated Evolution and explores how you can unlock your true potential in the new year using these powerful life-transforming tools.

Secret 1: Adopt A Holistic Approach

Accelerated Evolution is built upon a holistic foundation that encompasses the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual aspects of an individual. Unlike traditional self-help methods that focus solely on one aspect, AE recognizes the interconnectedness of these dimensions and seeks to integrate them for accelerated growth.

Maintaining your health and well-being in all areas is the bedrock of your evolution. A healthy lifestyle not only enhances your capacity for growth, but ensures sustainability in your spiritual journey. Movement combined with a healthy diet can keep your body fit and your mind sharp. Mindfulness practices and lifelong learning are also instrumental in promoting and maintaining balanced well-being.

Secret 2: Live In Alignment

Spiritual enlightenment involves living in alignment with your true self and higher purpose. Individuality and self-awareness are fundamental concepts of Accelerated Evolution. You are encouraged to align with your own desires, dreams, and authentic self, rather than being swayed by external influences and societal expectations that can lead to disempowerment. Being clear on your inner intentions and making choices that align with your authentic desires is a most effective way to live in alignment.

Secret 3: Embrace Mindfulness And Self-Awareness

Accelerated Evolution promotes mindfulness and awareness of thoughts and actions, which are pivotal for understanding and managing your inner world. These concepts mirror the spiritual practice of mindfulness, where you strive to stay present and conscious in each moment. 

Conscious breathwork and embodiment practices are central to mindfulness. By bringing awareness to the breath, you can tap into your body’s innate intelligence and release pent-up tension. This practice serves as a powerful tool for cultivating mindfulness, presence, and self-awareness, as well as enhanced physical well-being.

Secret 4: Master Your Intention And Attention

Accelerated Evolution highlights the interconnectedness between our inner and outer worlds. In other words, your external world is a reflection of your internal consciousness. So, your thoughts, beliefs, and intentions play a significant role in shaping your reality. This aligns with the spiritual concept of conscious creation, where you are able to influence your life experiences through your consciousness. 

Because your perception of reality is malleable, you can shift into a more desirable state of being through self-awareness and intentional action. Understanding the energy of thought enables you to refine your ability to consciously influence your experiences. This is why it is crucial to focus on what you desire, rather than what you fear. Mastering your mindset and directing your attention toward positive and empowering thoughts creates an effective synergy for impacting your external circumstances.

Secret 5: Cultivate Resilience 

Resilience is the ability to bounce back from setbacks and use them as catalysts for growth. Cultivating resilience is a cornerstone of Accelerated Evolution because it empowers you to recover from failure, overcome challenges, and achieve peak performance. One way to develop resilience is by practicing regular physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual self-care. Also, adaptability and flexibility are crucial skills for navigating challenges with grace and turning obstacles into opportunities to flourish. 

Secret 6: Let Go Of Resistance

Accelerated Evolution encourages the release of emotional blockages. This helps you let go of resistance and eliminate unnecessary mental noise that can come from unresolved emotions, unnecessary desires, and attachments to outcomes. 

AE delves deep into the realms of the subconscious, exploring and integrating the hidden aspects of one’s psyche. Limiting beliefs are silent saboteurs of growth. By confronting and embracing the shadows within, you can break free from self-imposed limitations, overcome deep-rooted limiting beliefs, and achieve profound personal transformation. It is not unusual to get professional assistance for this process.

Secret 7: Trust Your Intuition

When you connect with your higher self, the door opens to the quiet inner voice of your soul. Since your soul has access to universal intelligence, it knows what’s best for you. Your sense of such knowledge comes through what is called your intuition. If you pay attention, you’ll experience sensations of spiritual comfort or discomfort, which can help you to make insightful choices. This awareness adds profound wisdom and depth to your transformational journey. 

Secret 8: Harmonize Your Mind And Soul

Decisions based on logical reasoning are made by the mind. However, the mind can often complicate a solution as it has a tendency to be influenced by stress, worry, emotion, and overwhelm. 

A key strategy of Accelerated Evolution is to harmonize your mind and soul so you are able to choose the path of least resistance. By paying attention to signs that create a feeling something isn’t right, you can harmonize your inner and outer worlds by calmly surrendering to what arises. This enables you to handle life in the easiest and simplest way and increases your energy efficiency. 

Secret 9: Find Balance Between Effort And Flow

There’s a delicate balance between making conscious efforts and allowing life to flow. Accelerated Evolution emphasizes achieving goals with minimal effort and avoiding excessive striving. You are encouraged to operate from a state of flow, where conscious actions are aligned with a deeper sense of purpose. This synergy helps you avoid struggle and discover a more harmonious and effective approach to personal evolution.

Secret 10: Goal Setting And Visualization 

Accelerated Evolution’s powerful approach to goal setting involves the focus on your desires and aspirations without striving or putting excessive effort into achieving them. You define a specific goal for what you want to achieve, setting a clear intention for the goal. Regularly visualize yourself already in the desired state of successfully achieving your goal, making sure to feel the emotions associated with this state. 

Then, detach from the outcome so as not to place excessive importance on it. Cultivate a feeling of trust in the process and have faith that the Universe will guide you with synchronicities and unexpected opportunities along the way. It helps to concentrate on how you will deliver genuine value to help others, rather than focusing on the benefits that you will reap. Creating a vision board to represent your goals can serve to further inspire you.

Secret 11: Foster Community And Support 

Being part of a community of like-minded individuals is vital to accelerating your own evolution. One way to find women with common interests is by taking online courses, webinars, and virtual workshops. Self-development is about nurturing a perpetual curiosity for knowledge, so that the journey of learning never truly ends. The support of others to share experiences, learn from, and celebrate each other’s growth is a valuable resource. 

Secret 12: Seek Guidance 

Accelerated Evolution unveils a comprehensive and transformative approach to personal development. It provides a roadmap for individuals seeking accelerated growth and self-discovery, which ultimately leads to a more fulfilled and authentic life. The secret to advanced evolution does not lie in quick fixes, but in the profound and holistic integration of these principles. Taking advantage of guidance provides invaluable insights and shortcuts to the process, with the partnership playing a crucial role in accelerating your evolution.

Integrating these 12 comprehensive secrets into your life can set the stage for a powerful New Year. Accelerated Evolution unveils a synergistic and transformative approach to personal development through accelerated growth, self-discovery, and the conscious creation of your desired reality.

Interested in receiving support as you unlock your highest potential? Learn what a guided transformational journey with a Certified Accelerated Evolution Master Coach would look like. Join me for a personalized Discovery Session. Click here now and use the comment box to request a complimentary Discovery Session.

Desire Greater Fulfillment? Stop “Should”ing On Yourself

Have you noticed that when you think of something as a “should” it feels like a burden?

“Should” is the voice of obligation, a burdensome whisper of duties imposed by yourself and society. When you operate on “should,” you’re often following external pressures or internal expectations, not personal desire or intrinsic motivation. This discrepancy can lead to a lack of fulfillment because your actions do not fully align with your values or aspirations. 

Yet, you can shift the burden of “should” by simply choosing to think of something as a “want” instead. “Want” sings the tune of desire and free will, offering a more authentic path to fulfillment. When you act on “want,” you tap into your core desires and passions, which can fuel greater satisfaction and joy in your endeavors.

Choosing to shift from ”should” to “want” isn’t whimsical advice; it is backed by science that shows it can lead to a more fulfilled life. Research has demonstrated that positive language and the articulation of desire have tangible effects on the brain. For example, framing goals and aspirations in terms of “want” has been linked to increased activation in brain regions associated with reward and motivation.

“Should” and “want” are mindsets that drive your daily actions and shape your life. Therefore, although simple, the journey from ”should” to “want” may not be easy. It requires introspection, an understanding of your true desires, and often a confrontation with the fears and beliefs that create limits. By recognizing the challenges and learning practices to apply this mindset, you can create a more “want”-filled and full-filled life.


Challenges in Making The Shift From “Should” to “Want”

Societal Pressures and Expectations

Society’s narratives of success can often dictate your “shoulds,” pressuring you to pursue a career or lifestyle that resonates more with collective ideals than with your genuine passions. This dissonance creates a disconnect between your actions and your authentic self, which can foster dissatisfaction and stress. To truly embrace “want,” you must be willing to challenge societal norms and forge your own path.


Consistency is key in any transformation, yet doubts can derail progress. When faced with challenges or setbacks, it can be easy to revert to “should” as it provides a safe harbor of familiarity. Staying the course requires a steadfast commitment to your desires, especially in the face of adversity. This journey is not about never doubting, it’s about persisting despite your doubts.

How to Make The Shift

Identify Your “Shoulds”

The first step in transitioning from “should” to “want” is identifying the “shoulds” that govern your life. These are often entrenched in your psyche, masquerading as undeniable truths. They can stem from various sources: parental expectations, cultural norms, or even self-imposed ideals based on comparison with others. To identify them, reflect on the times you’ve felt obliged to act against your interest or joy.

Foster “Want”

Begin by cultivating self-awareness. Listen to your internal dialogue. What excites you? What are you curious about? Start small, integrating activities into your routine that align more closely with your interests. Next, practice reframing your thoughts. Transform thoughts like “I should work out” into “I want to feel strong and healthy.” Over time, these techniques can shift your mindset and align your actions more closely with your true desires.

Practical Applications

In the Workplace

In the workplace, this shift can transform your professional life. Start by identifying tasks you feel you “should” do versus those you “want” to do. Gradually, take action to delegate, minimize, alter, or reframe the “should” tasks. Consciously seek out projects that ignite a “want.” As you increase job satisfaction and productivity, your work begins to resonate more with your values and interests.

At Home and In Family

At home and in family life, “want” can lead to more harmonious relationships and greater personal satisfaction. Instead of a mindset of “I should spend time with family,” focus on “I want to create meaningful moments with my loved ones.” This perspective can alleviate feelings of guilt and obligation, allowing for more genuine and fulfilling interactions.

Personal Development and Self-care

By shifting to a “want” mentality, you embrace a more compassionate approach to self-improvement. Rather than punishing yourself with “shoulds” about diet, exercise, or learning, focus on what you “want” to achieve for your well-being. This approach can lead to more sustainable habits and a kinder relationship with yourself. 

Turning “should” into “want” is more than a simple change in your vocabulary; it’s a choice that can open the door to greater fulfillment. Because, at its essence, a “want”-filled life is a full-filled life.

By aligning your actions with your desires, you choose the path that leads to an authentic and more enjoyable life. To get started, click here to claim your free gift: Core Values Assessment: Aligning Your Core Values To Your Authentic Self. 

Balance And Fulfillment: Reality Or Fantasy?

Balance. It’s a word that’s used often. But what does it really mean?

Balance refers to a state of equilibrium or harmony, where no single aspect dominates or overwhelms the others. Achieving life balance means finding fulfillment in all areas of one’s life, including physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, career, social, financial, and intellectual well-being. 

In a world filled with constant change, distractions, and sometimes an overwhelming sense of chaos, you may be seeking a sense of balance and fulfillment in your life. We live in an age of information, where magazines, social media feeds, and influential personalities tout the ideal life – career, family, friends, travel – all perfectly in sync. Yet, in the pursuit of balance and fulfillment, it is possible to encounter challenges that make you feel disconnected from your true desires and passions. It may even feel as if you’re chasing an ever-receding horizon.

So, is the notion of a balanced and fulfilled life realistic, or is it a fantasy? 

In my weekly studies as an Accelerated Evolution Certified Master Coach, I’ve been re-reading a unique and thought-provoking book by Vadim Zeland. The book is entitled “Reality Transurfing,” and it introduces intriguing concepts that shed light on whether the notion of a balanced life is realistic or just a fantasy. Let’s explore some of these concepts and their implications on your quest for balance and fulfillment.

Core Principles Of “Reality Transurfing”

The Pendulum Effect

Pendulums are one of the central ideas in Reality Transurfing. They are thought-energy structures that thrive on our attention and can sway us away from balance and fulfillment. Some examples of pendulums are societal norms, career pressures, or even personal expectations. Pendulums can exert a powerful influence, creating a sense of imbalance and lack of fulfillment.

It’s also essential to recognize that pendulums can create an illusion of balance that aligns with the objectives of the pendulum, not necessarily with our true desires. When this occurs, the balance and fulfillment we’re striving for may be defined by external influences instead of our inner intentions. 

To achieve balance and fulfillment, it’s essential to recognize and detach from the pendulums that seek to control us.

Importance of Inner Intention

Reality Transurfing encourages us to identify and pursue our inner intentions, which are our genuine desires and aspirations. Our inner intentions are not influenced by external pressures or pendulums. To find balance and fulfillment, it is crucial to identify and align with your inner intentions. By connecting with your true desires and staying focused on your unique path, you can transcend the noise of external influences and find fulfillment in your life.

Visualization is Key 

Visualization plays a significant role in Reality Transurfing. When you create a clear mental image of your desired reality and connect with the associated emotions, you take a powerful step toward achieving balance and fulfillment. Through practice, you can actively steer your life towards your preferred reality. This process can help you find balance and fulfillment as you work towards your true goals and desires.

Importance of Reducing Excess Potential

Excess potential refers to the energy we waste on unnecessary thoughts, worries, and fears. By reducing this excess potential and conserving our energy, we can achieve a greater sense of balance and fulfillment. This concept emphasizes the importance of focusing on what truly matters and letting go of things that drain our energy and divert us from our goals.

The Mirror Principle

The Mirror Principle suggests that the external world is a reflection of our inner state. By working on our thoughts, beliefs, and emotions, we can transform our external reality. This principle highlights the importance of self-awareness and personal growth as a means to achieve balance and fulfillment.

Practical Steps for Balance and Fulfillment

Now that we’ve explored the core principles of Reality Transurfing, let’s discuss some practical steps you can take to find balance and fulfillment in your life.

Identify Your Inner Intentions

Take time to reflect on your true desires and goals. What do you genuinely want in life? Understanding your inner intentions is the first step in aligning your reality with your dreams.

Recognize and Detach from Pendulums

Be aware of the pendulums in your life – the collective thought patterns, beliefs, and emotions of external influences that can sway your thoughts and actions. Practice detachment from these energy-draining forces by consciously choosing a neutral stance. Do not feed them with your energy, attention, or emotional investment. 

Instead, embrace your individuality and prioritize your own desires by focusing your energy on activities and thoughts aligned with your goals. When you recognize pendulums and minimize their influence, you regain your power and redefine balance and fulfillment on your terms.

Visualize Your Desired Reality

Regularly engage in visualization exercises to connect with the reality you desire. See it in your mind’s eye and feel the emotions associated with it. Adopt a mindset of already having achieved your desired reality. 

Reduce Excess Potential

Identify the thoughts and worries that consume your energy unnecessarily. Let go of them and focus your energy on productive and positive pursuits. Practice gratitude and make choices that align with your authentic desires. 

Cultivate Self-Awareness

Embrace the Mirror Principle by working on your inner state. Develop self-awareness through practices like mindfulness, meditation, and self-reflection. Nurture your mental and emotional well-being by aligning your thoughts, emotions, and beliefs with your desired state of balance. This can lead to a more balanced and fulfilled external reality. 

So, is the notion of a balanced and fulfilled life realistic? Or is it a fantasy? 

Reality Transurfing suggests that a balanced life is both achievable and within your control. By understanding and managing the influence of pendulums, embracing the Mirror Principle to reflect on your inner state, and following your inner intentions, you can redefine balance and fulfillment on your own terms.

While the quest for balance and fulfillment may not be without its challenges, the concepts of Reality Transurfing provide a roadmap to navigate the complexities of life and find true equilibrium. Neither balance, nor fulfillment are one-size-fits-all concepts. You’re on a personal journey shaped by your inner intentions and self-awareness. This is what can transform the notion of a balanced and fulfilled life from fantasy into a meaningful reality. 

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