Self-Fulfillment, Uncategorized
Balance. It’s a word that’s used often. But what does it really mean?
Balance refers to a state of equilibrium or harmony, where no single aspect dominates or overwhelms the others. Achieving life balance means finding fulfillment in all areas of one’s life, including physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, career, social, financial, and intellectual well-being.
In a world filled with constant change, distractions, and sometimes an overwhelming sense of chaos, you may be seeking a sense of balance and fulfillment in your life. We live in an age of information, where magazines, social media feeds, and influential personalities tout the ideal life – career, family, friends, travel – all perfectly in sync. Yet, in the pursuit of balance and fulfillment, it is possible to encounter challenges that make you feel disconnected from your true desires and passions. It may even feel as if you’re chasing an ever-receding horizon.
So, is the notion of a balanced and fulfilled life realistic, or is it a fantasy?
In my weekly studies as an Accelerated Evolution Certified Master Coach, I’ve been re-reading a unique and thought-provoking book by Vadim Zeland. The book is entitled “Reality Transurfing,” and it introduces intriguing concepts that shed light on whether the notion of a balanced life is realistic or just a fantasy. Let’s explore some of these concepts and their implications on your quest for balance and fulfillment.
Core Principles Of “Reality Transurfing”
The Pendulum Effect
Pendulums are one of the central ideas in Reality Transurfing. They are thought-energy structures that thrive on our attention and can sway us away from balance and fulfillment. Some examples of pendulums are societal norms, career pressures, or even personal expectations. Pendulums can exert a powerful influence, creating a sense of imbalance and lack of fulfillment.
It’s also essential to recognize that pendulums can create an illusion of balance that aligns with the objectives of the pendulum, not necessarily with our true desires. When this occurs, the balance and fulfillment we’re striving for may be defined by external influences instead of our inner intentions.
To achieve balance and fulfillment, it’s essential to recognize and detach from the pendulums that seek to control us.
Importance of Inner Intention
Reality Transurfing encourages us to identify and pursue our inner intentions, which are our genuine desires and aspirations. Our inner intentions are not influenced by external pressures or pendulums. To find balance and fulfillment, it is crucial to identify and align with your inner intentions. By connecting with your true desires and staying focused on your unique path, you can transcend the noise of external influences and find fulfillment in your life.
Visualization is Key
Visualization plays a significant role in Reality Transurfing. When you create a clear mental image of your desired reality and connect with the associated emotions, you take a powerful step toward achieving balance and fulfillment. Through practice, you can actively steer your life towards your preferred reality. This process can help you find balance and fulfillment as you work towards your true goals and desires.
Importance of Reducing Excess Potential
Excess potential refers to the energy we waste on unnecessary thoughts, worries, and fears. By reducing this excess potential and conserving our energy, we can achieve a greater sense of balance and fulfillment. This concept emphasizes the importance of focusing on what truly matters and letting go of things that drain our energy and divert us from our goals.
The Mirror Principle
The Mirror Principle suggests that the external world is a reflection of our inner state. By working on our thoughts, beliefs, and emotions, we can transform our external reality. This principle highlights the importance of self-awareness and personal growth as a means to achieve balance and fulfillment.
Practical Steps for Balance and Fulfillment
Now that we’ve explored the core principles of Reality Transurfing, let’s discuss some practical steps you can take to find balance and fulfillment in your life.
Identify Your Inner Intentions
Take time to reflect on your true desires and goals. What do you genuinely want in life? Understanding your inner intentions is the first step in aligning your reality with your dreams.
Recognize and Detach from Pendulums
Be aware of the pendulums in your life – the collective thought patterns, beliefs, and emotions of external influences that can sway your thoughts and actions. Practice detachment from these energy-draining forces by consciously choosing a neutral stance. Do not feed them with your energy, attention, or emotional investment.
Instead, embrace your individuality and prioritize your own desires by focusing your energy on activities and thoughts aligned with your goals. When you recognize pendulums and minimize their influence, you regain your power and redefine balance and fulfillment on your terms.
Visualize Your Desired Reality
Regularly engage in visualization exercises to connect with the reality you desire. See it in your mind’s eye and feel the emotions associated with it. Adopt a mindset of already having achieved your desired reality.
Reduce Excess Potential
Identify the thoughts and worries that consume your energy unnecessarily. Let go of them and focus your energy on productive and positive pursuits. Practice gratitude and make choices that align with your authentic desires.
Cultivate Self-Awareness
Embrace the Mirror Principle by working on your inner state. Develop self-awareness through practices like mindfulness, meditation, and self-reflection. Nurture your mental and emotional well-being by aligning your thoughts, emotions, and beliefs with your desired state of balance. This can lead to a more balanced and fulfilled external reality.
So, is the notion of a balanced and fulfilled life realistic? Or is it a fantasy?
Reality Transurfing suggests that a balanced life is both achievable and within your control. By understanding and managing the influence of pendulums, embracing the Mirror Principle to reflect on your inner state, and following your inner intentions, you can redefine balance and fulfillment on your own terms.
While the quest for balance and fulfillment may not be without its challenges, the concepts of Reality Transurfing provide a roadmap to navigate the complexities of life and find true equilibrium. Neither balance, nor fulfillment are one-size-fits-all concepts. You’re on a personal journey shaped by your inner intentions and self-awareness. This is what can transform the notion of a balanced and fulfilled life from fantasy into a meaningful reality.
Make a balanced and fulfilled life your reality.
Self-Care, Self-Fulfillment, Spirituality, Uncategorized
How is self-realization essential for personal growth, fulfillment, and boundless joy?
As mentioned in my past writings, self-realization is the connection with your true essence to more clearly see your unlimited potential. The concept of “self-realization” may sound esoteric as if it is reserved for sages or gurus. True, it stems from ancient Eastern religions and yogic philosophy, yet it is also referenced in psychological theories and other spiritual schools of thought. Every individual, regardless of culture or background, can tap into this source of understanding and wisdom.
Self-realization is a process of fully perceiving your unique personality, thus it’s a deeply personal journey. As you come into greater alignment with your true self, you’re able to experience levels of peace and contentment that previously eluded you. You’ll also find doors open to opportunities and benefits that substantially impact your day-to-day life.
Only when you connect with your authentic self—which lies beyond social constructs, fleeting emotions, and thoughts that take control over your life—will you be able to get off the hamster wheel and let go of the frenetic pursuit of becoming more. Your choice to be fully aware of your thoughts, emotions, and actions opens the door to inner peace, balance, and harmony.
Self-realization removes the layers, the masks, and the illusions that prevent you from seeing your true nature, which is the highest version of yourself. It leads to alignment with your core values, truest desires, and higher purpose, therefore it’s essential for personal growth, fulfillment, and boundless joy.
10 Ways Self-Realization Can Transform Your Life
Inner Peace
As you understand and embrace your true self, the perpetual search for external validation diminishes. Acceptance enables you to be less reactive when circumstances are out of your control and more grounded in your response to life. There’s a sense of completeness. This leads to inner peace.
Mental Adaptability
Self-realization provides greater self-awareness. Having an understanding of your intrinsic nature better equips you to handle stress, anxiety, and depression. As you embrace your authentic self, you better respond to life and become more mentally adaptable.
Physical Well-being
Mind and body are intertwined. When you’re at peace with yourself, it reflects on your physical health. Less stress means a reduced risk of stress-induced ailments. For example, digestive issues or exhaustion from lack of sleep can stem from stress and have grave effects on your health. A mind at peace is a body at peace.
Genuine Relationships
As you accept yourself at a deeper level, your current relationships either transform or drop off. You also attract others who resonate with your authentic self and align with your true values. This leads to more genuine connections and deeper bonds.
Greater Clarity
Self-realization clears the fog of confusion. It allows you to see things as they are, free from biases and illusions. With this clarity, decision-making becomes simpler and more effective.
Stronger Resilience
As self-realization leads to the awareness of your true nature, you’re better able to activate a deep reservoir of strength. This resilience can help you handle setbacks and maintain your equilibrium during the most challenging times.
Profound Insight
When you tap into your core, you access a source of wisdom that offers insight beyond ordinary understanding. This can expand your perspective of available possibilities and lead to opportunities beyond your imagination.
Macrocosmic Connection
Recognizing your authentic self makes you more empathetic and aware. You begin to see the overall interconnectedness of all beings and experience a deeper relatedness with your community and the world.
Spiritual Evolution
Self-realization is a significant step in spiritual growth. By understanding and aligning with your true nature, you embark on a path of spiritual evolution, deepening your connection with the universe as a whole.
Meaningful Life Purpose
With the discovery of your true self comes purpose and meaning. Your actions begin to align with your core beliefs, which leads to greater passion and purpose.
The path to self-realization is as unique as each individual, and its rewards are universal. It’s a journey that offers a deeper understanding of yourself and others, providing the foundation for a more peaceful, purposeful, and profoundly joyful life.
Whether you’re seeking self-realization through meditation, introspection, journaling, or other practices, the path to finding and embracing your true self is transformative.
Self-Care, Self-Fulfillment, Self-Love
Are you aware of your true passion? Or are you still seeking a greater purpose that will spark your joy and a deeper sense of fulfillment?
Believe it or not, your highest potential is already within you just waiting to be activated. Self-realization is a simple, yet profound journey that involves uncovering your true self to reveal what’s been there all along.
However, if you’re an accomplished woman, you may be trapped in a perpetual cycle of becoming. What I’m referring to is the unending quest to become more—prosperous, successful, fulfilled, etc. I’ll acknowledge that this pursuit might initially appear to be advantageous. However, over time it can propagate dissatisfaction by hindering the self-awareness and inner growth that’s essential for your genuine happiness.
I’m extremely cognizant of how easy it can be to get caught up in the frantic pace of becoming. The notion of simply being contradicts most societal norms. Yet, being is the key to unlocking your inner untapped potential and enjoying freedom through greater balance, purpose, and meaning.
You can absolutely break free from the chains of perpetual becoming and embrace the practice of being. When you choose to do this, you take an essential step towards self-realization and the awareness of your true self, replete with your innate potential.
The Concept of “Being”
Historical Perspectives
The concept of “being” is deeply rooted in ancient religious and philosophical traditions, each of which offers their own individual path to understanding existence and the self. For instance, in Buddhism, the concept of “being” opens the path to enlightenment. The Buddha taught that understanding your true nature of existence and self is crucial in the journey to Nirvana.
Similarly, Hindu philosophy states that the essence of being is explored through the concept of the inner self or soul. The realization of one’s inner self being one with the ultimate reality or world soul is central to attaining liberation from the cycle of birth, death, and rebirth.
In ancient Greek philosophy, Socrates’ famous maxim, “Know thyself,” emphasizes the fundamental role of self-awareness and self-realization in understanding life and existence. His student Plato also contemplated the forms and the nature of existence beyond the physical world.
The inquiry into the nature of “being” stands as a central metaphysical pillar for understanding life, the world, and the self. The universal human yearning for wisdom and enlightenment can be attained through the journey of self-realization.
The Modern Adaptation
In modern society, the ancient concept of “being” is integrated into mindfulness and self-awareness practices, which presents numerous avenues of exploration for understanding existence and consciousness. The emphasis of these practices is on centering yourself in the present so you can move beyond a habitual yearning to become something else; and instead, nurture your innate essence to thrive.
Mindfulness practices encourage you to become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and sensations in the present moment, reducing anxiety, stress, and depression. Practices such as yoga and meditation, which derive from ancient Hindu and Buddhist philosophies, promote both physical and mental wellness. Journaling, breathing exercises, and walks in nature, also ground you in the present moment.
Emphasis on the connection between mind, body, and spirit cultivates balance and inner peace, accelerating true self-awareness and personal enlightenment. Therefore, the age-old exploration of “being” continues in modern times, offering paths for deeper understanding, mental and emotional balance, and self-realization.
The Dangers of Perpetual Becoming
The Cycle of Dissatisfaction: Always Wanting More
With perpetual becoming, there is the persistence of dissatisfaction. This relentless yearning for more—success, material wealth, validation—fuels discontent and anxiety, ensnaring one in a never-ending loop of insufficiency.
A Comparative Monologue: Feeling Unworthy
Amidst the rush to achieve, there’s the danger of slipping into comparative monologues, measuring your value against external yardsticks and feeling perpetually unworthy. This undermines self-esteem and self-acceptance, further exacerbating the disconnect from your true self.
Embracing the Power of Being
The Joy of the Present
With techniques like mindfulness and meditation, you can anchor yourself in the joy of the present. You truly embrace the power of being by immersing yourself fully in the now. When you apply these techniques to everyday life, you foster a deep sense of connection with the present moment and increased self-realization.
Harness Your Potential
Adopting the mindset of being, rather than becoming, positively impacts all facets of life—from relationships and careers to overall well-being. When all else is stripped away, you reveal the authentic self and see your potential with greater clarity, unburdened by societal expectations or external pressures. Don’t shy away from the true version of yourself. Harness it with audacity and reap the rewards of greater meaning, fulfillment, and joy in your life.
Throughout history, the concept of unbecoming to reveal one’s true ‘being’ has been advocated as a profound approach to understanding the potential within. Through self-realization, you can unearth your true purpose and discover your highest potential.
Self-Fulfillment, Spirituality
A spiritual awakening can lead to a great sense of peace, joy, and fulfillment. However, initially, you may find discomfort in your new perception of reality.
In my previous article, Awaken Your Potential: The Evolving Stages of a Spiritual Awakening, I spoke about how spiritual awakenings are often preceded by life-changing events. Pivotal life moments, such as a sudden loss, a serious illness, a divorce, or a career change, can elicit a shift in your perspective and launch you on a spiritual path.
As your journey unfolds, the feelings and sensations that come forth can be unfamiliar and even unnerving at times. You may notice an evolving sense of self and heightened emotions. If you don’t recognize such changes as symptoms of a spiritual journey, it can be unsettling.
To navigate your ongoing journey, it is helpful to understand that the stages of spiritual awakening are evolving and not linear; there will be periods of ebb and flow. In order to receive the full benefits of your journey, it’s valuable to honor and nurture your emotions, sensations, and introspective impressions.
Understanding Your Spiritual Awakening
Emotional Responses
Post-awakening, it can be common to experience a surge of heightened emotions. As your journey continues, you might find yourself oscillating between moments of profound joy and deep sorrow. It’s important to embrace the highs and navigate the lows with grace and understanding.
Heightened sensitivity is a blessing that you can use as a tool to navigate your journey towards enlightenment. Here are some of the emotions you may experience:
Profound Joy: You might feel profound joy as you see the world in a new light, realizing deeper connections and greater passion. This newfound perspective can make you feel more alive and aligned with your purpose, which allows even the smallest of moments to produce unimagined joy.
Deep Sorrow: The process of awakening often brings deep sorrow, since it might mean coming to terms with past traumas, injustices, or personal losses. You may also feel grief over what might have been, or have difficulty adjusting to changes happening externally and internally in your life.
Excitement: As you develop heightened intuition, you may experience excitement about the synchronicities and signs that guide you. It could feel like the universe is communicating with you in a more direct way, and you become eager to see where this path leads.
Confusion: You might feel confusion as a result of the whirlwind of emotions and energies you’re tuning into. It could even be challenging to distinguish your feelings from those of people around you, making it necessary to navigate a new depth of empathy.
Fear: Awakening can bring fear of stepping into the unknown or letting go of old beliefs and structures that no longer serve you. You might be afraid of what you’ll discover about yourself or the world.
Peace: Amidst the chaos, there can be moments of peace, where you feel deeply connected to your inner self and the universe. This comes from understanding and accepting the natural flow of life, with its ups and downs.
Compassion: Your heightened sensitivity tends to foster increased compassion, as you become more attuned to the feelings and struggles of others. You may find yourself understanding and empathizing with people on a deeper level, with a greater desire to help and uplift others.
Handling Your Emotions
Embrace your heightened emotions instead of shying away from them. These feelings are signals of growth and indicate that you are tuning in to your inner self. During your awakening, it’s important to give yourself space to experience the emotions fully. Simple practices like mindful meditation, deep breathing, or even taking a walk in nature can help you connect with these deeper aspects of yourself.
It’s also vital to give yourself the grace to evolve, to learn, and to adapt. Engaging in meaningful conversations, reading enriching literature, and becoming a part of a supportive community can provide nourishment for your evolving soul.
A New Sense of Self
The journey of spiritual growth is continuous, filled with moments of lucidity or confusion. As you embrace these intrinsic aspects of your journey, you’ll experience an overall sense of clarity and see things you may have overlooked before. This includes a new sense of self.
Since this version of you is new, it might come as a surprise when you handle situations differently. Instead of reacting as your ego did in the past, you pause to consider how you will choose to respond. At times, this might be surprising. Yet, keep in mind that a spiritual journey tends to be fueled by faith. Accordingly, positive responses could authentically be the most likely outcomes of your new sense of self.
The Gifts Of A Spiritual Awakening
As you become more receptive to the voice within, you learn how to trust your intuition. This enhanced intuition becomes your guiding force, allowing you to see things from a new point of view, understand situations better, and discover greater fulfillment and passion.
Material pursuits often fade in importance. Instead, your emphasis will be on personal development, enriching experiences, and meaningful relationships. A heightened awareness of energy vibrations can lead to distancing yourself from relationships that don’t serve you, while making new connections that support your evolving self.
Your ability to more intensely feel your emotions, along with the energy of others, is a true gift of your spiritual awakening. Embrace the highs and lows with an open heart. Trust that the universe is guiding you towards the most benevolent outcome for your highest potential.
Uncategorized
Have you been experiencing an urge to reevaluate your beliefs or reprioritize your life?
Are you searching for something, but you’re not sure what?
Do you crave more meaning and purpose?
You could be experiencing a spiritual awakening.
Simply stated, a spiritual awakening signifies the start of your journey on a spiritual path. It can be described as a profound shift in consciousness that expands your worldview and mindset. You are waking up from ego-centered life and questioning previously held beliefs, habits, and societal norms that don’t serve your highest good. It’s the difference between being on auto-pilot versus being fully aware of your course.
Here are some frequently asked questions about spiritual awakening:
Why am I having a spiritual awakening? In a nutshell, your soul decided you were ready to wake up. Your soul has been evolving and expanding, and it’s time for you to reconnect with your true nature.
What activates a spiritual awakening? It can be triggered by many things and happen at any time of your life. Spiritual awakenings can be spontaneous or they can be caused by life-changing events, such as the death of a loved one, a serious illness, a divorce, a car crash, or a myriad of other things.
What are the benefits of a spiritual awakening? An awakening brings a better understanding of yourself and how you are connected with others and the universe. You begin to realize that true fulfillment and happiness can’t come from outside you and that it’s found within. You perceive the human experience in a whole new way, craving a more meaningful existence that makes you feel whole. As you learn how to activate your innate power and accept what is, you discover greater flow and increased joy, grace, and wisdom. Life becomes easier.
How long does a spiritual awakening last? Spiritual awakening is not a destination; it is a life-long journey. The process is complex and varies for each individual, ranging from calm to chaotic in intensity.
What does a spiritual awakening look like? There are 7 stages of spiritual awakening. It’s important to note that this is not a linear process that moves from A to Z. It is quite common to move back and forth between the stages. As well, you will most likely experience periods of ebb and flow in your evolution.
The Evolving Stages Of Spiritual Awakening
Stage 1: Feeling Lost
You experience confusion, disconnection, and unhappiness with your life. Nothing makes sense. You no longer feel like you. There’s an emptiness, like something is missing within you. It may seem as if a rug has been pulled out from underneath you.
Stage 2: Shifting Perspectives
As you become more awake and aware, you begin to perceive life, society, and the world in a different way. What was once accepted without question is critically examined. You see through the illusions and realize that many of your values and beliefs are inherited from other people. This period can be unsettling, as it challenges the foundations of your identity.
Stage 3: Seeking
You start asking questions like: “Who am I?”, “What’s the meaning of life?”, and “What is my purpose?” As a result, you begin to look at metaphysical and personal development resources for answers. You desire to be alone, possibly losing touch with friends and family as you become more introspective.
Stage 4: Finding
Through soul searching, you find teachers and practices that resonate with you. Your desire for truth and authenticity leads to the dissolution of old patterns that no longer serve you. You have glimpses of who you truly are.
Stage 5: Disillusionment
You become tired of the teachers and practices that once spoke to you and look for something deeper. If you had the experience of connection with the Divine, it can be normal to be separated again during this stage. However, your craving for deep connection and spiritual transformation motivates you to go in search of more.
Stage 6: Inner Work
Your desire to deeply understand who you are is the impetus for you to seriously dive into inner work and soul work. You may immerse yourself in practices that call to you, like mindfulness, meditation, shadow work, inner child work, and other metaphysical modalities.
Stage 7: Integration
You consciously apply the spiritual lessons you’ve learned, from your inner and soul work, into your daily life. This is where you experience the most lasting transformation. You’ll feel greater depths of connection, peace, joy, love, and alignment with all there is. And you may desire to use this wisdom to help others.
Tools & Practices to Aid Your Journey
Meditation & Mindfulness
Meditation is the cornerstone of many spiritual practices. By quieting the mind, you can tap into deeper levels of consciousness and understanding. Mindfulness or focusing on the present moment, helps ground you, calm your thoughts, and cultivate a balanced perspective.
Journaling & Expressive Art
Documenting your spiritual journey can be therapeutic. Journaling offers a way to process and reflect. Expressive art acts as a medium to convey complex emotions and insights, which can help bridge the gap between your soul and the external world.
Spiritual Guides & Healing
Seeking guidance from spiritual teachers or healers can be invaluable. Whether it’s through literature, seminars, or one-on-one sessions, their wisdom can offer clarity and direction during the ongoing journey of your spiritual awakening.
My Experience With Spiritual Awakening
My spiritual awakening was activated by just about every life-changing event that I mentioned above. It began to unfold between July 1994 and August 1996. Over the course of two years, I experienced the loss of two friends to cancer, the mugging and death of my father, a move from New York to Florida, the selling of my successful financial planning business to partner in a new company, the dissolution of the new company, a new job, a divorce, and a car crash that triggered fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, and post-traumatic stress.
If you’ve seen The Matrix, like Neo I was offered both the blue pill and the red pill. If I had taken the blue pill, I would have remained asleep and unaware. Instead, I chose the red pill and spiritual awakening. Looking back at my Dark Night of the Soul experience, I will admit that it’s not a journey for the faint of heart.
Since that time, I have experienced all seven stages of spiritual awakening more than once. As I mentioned above, this is not a linear process and so I move back and forth between the stages multiple times. There were also periods of ebb and flow in my evolution. Sometimes, I took two steps forward and one step back; other times, one step forward and two steps back.
Yet, it was all worth it! Going through the process of spiritual awakening is unlike anything I could have imagined. I would never have thought that my spiritual journey would include becoming a certified life coach, certified master coach and assistant trainer of Accelerated Evolution, a spiritual counselor, and a doctor of metaphysics. My spiritual awakening has been deeply profound, and I would do it all over again…except, now I have the tools to do it more quickly and less painfully.
Are you having your own spiritual awakening, on the verge of experiencing an awakening, or desiring to experience an awakening? If you would like some insight, support, and guidance along the way, click here and request a complimentary discovery session.
Welcome the call of your soul. Embrace each stage, tool, and insight of awakening, knowing they’re guiding you towards your most authentic self.
